I’m very pleased to welcome back my weekly feature ‘Mummy Monday’ – #MummyMonday – each week we’ll welcome a lovely real Mum to Mission2Mum to tell us about life as a Mama, as well as share their tips and advice for other Mums.
Being a Mum can feel pretty lonely at times, so I introduced this feature as a way of introducing all you lovely Mums, sharing your thoughts, loves and worries to help give you a bit of support along this roller coaster ride called ‘Motherhood’.
To kick things off, I’d like to welcome the very lovely Laura (@MrsLouPops) …
Getting to know you
Twitter name: MrsLouPops
Occupation: Mental Health Nursing Assistant. I also wrote a wedding blog called Bonfire Night Bride in the run up to my November 2011 wedding. I have since stopped blogging about weddings but write the odd baby related post.
Where are you from: Cottingham, East Yorkshire
Mummy to: Toby 14weeks
Favourite thing to do with your limited alone time: Walk my gorgeous golden Labrador Daisy (my other baby), eat pizza and paint my nails. Not all at the same time, that would be too messy!
Favourite outfit: It sounds boring but at the moment it still has to be the dress and leggings combo as I still haven’t lost any baby weight and trousers are very uncomfortable. I’m all about being comfy! If the dress has glitter or sequins though, even better!
Favourite Music: Mumford & Sons. A man in tweed is the man for me! Although I’ll listen to pretty much anything with guitars and men who look like they need a good wash.
Favourite Food: Any form of bread and cheese but preferably pizza.
Currently watching: The Walking Dead, American Horror Story, Homeland and you can’t beat a bit of Geordie Shore to make you feel better about yourself, ha!
Currently reading: It’s not often I read for fun so currently I’m reading a book on baby led weaning so I know what I’m doing in a few months time.
Proudest moment in your life: Other than giving birth to my gorgeous boy, definitely my wedding day. Getting in a hot bath to soak my painful feet after such an amazing day knowing that it was a huge success and worth all the blood, sweat and tears was the best feeling ever!
Favourite quote: “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” I’ve never been a massive fan of Marilyn Monroe but this quote of hers pretty much sums me up!
In 5 years, I hope… that my husband and I are in a position financially to have a little brother or sister for Toby, once he’s at school. Something very exciting to look forward to!
What are you grateful for: I am so unbelievably grateful for my family – mum, dad and brothers. There has been no end to their help and support since having Toby and without them being around things would be a hell of a lot more difficult. We certainly aren’t The Waltons and may all argue like cat and dog but they are real lifesavers and I wouldn’t have them any other way.
Essential kit for your handbag, when you’re with the girls: phone (you never know when you might need to take a sneaky pic and it saves carting your camera around!) and face powder. I can’t be without my compact!
Being a Mum
What do you love most about being a Mummy: I love having a little person that you love unconditionally and they will love you like that in return. That first smile in a morning when you look into his Moses basket actually makes your heart melt.
What could you do without: leaking nappies! The less said about that the better 😉
Words of wisdom for other Mummies: It’s easier said than done, I know but I am a big believer in not letting babies take over your life. As beautiful as they are, everybody always asks about baby but they forget to ask about you – it is SO important to remember that you are still a person and don’t forget yourself.
What 5 words best describe your labour story: overdue, slow, terrifying, uncomfortable, exhausting
What essential items should be taken into the labour room: I went into hospital to be induced as I was two weeks overdue. I was armed with two suitcases packed with everything from food and drink to ice packs and a tens machine but literally the only things that I used during labour were my phone (to text my best friend updates and take the odd photo as a memento) and a comfortable button down nightie. I took everything on ‘this list’ as I would rather have been prepared than wish I’d taken something but because of the induction and being on a drip I was bed ridden and couldn’t eat or drink. Everything I’d taken was rendered useless but if I did it again I’d still take everything on that list as no birth is ever the same and you never know how things are going to pan out!
Top tips for getting through the first weeks of having a new baby: Make sure you sleep whenever you can. If the baby is having a nap, you nap. If you have had a c-section take it so steady, don’t try to be superwoman. Don’t be afraid to ask your partner to do as much as possible for you and the baby.
What’s the most ridiculous piece of advice you’ve been given: “Breast is best.” I totally agree with this statement but… I was desperate to breast feed but I couldn’t. Because of this I expressed for the first 6 weeks and topped up with formula. There is SO much unnecessary pressure on women to breastfeed that it can make you feel inadequate if you can’t. I tried my hardest but because Toby was such a big baby (8lb15oz) he wasn’t getting the amount that he needed from breastfeeding alone. I wanted to give him the goodness from my milk but he was getting jaundice from not getting enough fluid in his body so I had no choice but to formula feed. I wasn’t prepared to make my baby ill by starving him just because I wanted to breastfeed, the poor lad wanted feeding properly! You tell others that you’re giving your baby formula though and they look at you like you’ve just told them you’re mainlining baby mashed up burgers. As my midwife said, “go with your baby.” Toby got the best of both worlds – a great start nutritionally with my expressed milk and also a satisfyingly full tummy from the formula.
Most embarrassing moment since becoming a Mum: You know what, I actually haven’t had anything embarrassing happen to me since being a mum but during labour I did fart whilst one of the midwives was trying to put a probe on Toby’s head whilst he was still tucked away up there! It was the ward sister and I didn’t like her so she kind of deserved it. Even though what she was doing to me was pure agony and I was writhing around in pain, I was still mortified and had to apologise!
The one product you couldn’t live without now you’re a Mum: hmm, it’s a bit boring but I would have to say headbands. I no longer get the chance to dry my hair as Toby has lots of early morning hospital appointments. Pretty headbands are great for making wet hair look acceptable when in a rush!
Something you didn’t know about yourself before becoming a Mum: I’m way calmer than I thought I was. I always thought I was a stress head and my husband was the calm one. In a lot of ways this is true but when it comes to babies it turns out that it’s the opposite way round. I have a lot more patience when it comes to tantrum time and can let things go over my head a lot easier than I’d ever imagined.
How do you keep your children entertained: As Toby is only 13 weeks old he’s not yet into putting toast in the DVD player or drawing on walls so I don’t need many distraction techniques just yet but I do find the Mamas & Papas Stargaze mat (or Toby’s disco mat as I call it) a Godsend for when it comes to doing the laundry or for when it’s mum’s shower time.
It plays music and has flashing lights to keep baby mesmerized. My wee man is safe on there as he cannot yet crawl but when that time comes I will need to think of something else!
If you were a superhero, what would your power be: my power would be to see into the future. I’d then know the winning lottery numbers and not have to worry about work ever again!!
Thank you so much Laura. Your embarrassing moment has made me cry with laughter. Hilarious! I’m still laughing now. haha!
If you would like to join the Mama Monday club either pop your email address in the comments below or email me ‘here’ so I can send you the questions.
In case you wanted more reasons to feel broody again, check out these adorable photos of baby Toby. Cute! xx