MUMMY MONDAY – REAL MAMA – ASHLEY, A Mothers Edit

Happy Monday Mama’s!

It’s the big day for us today. When this goes live Mills will be at school and I will, no doubt, be a blubbering wreck. As the day has crept closer I’ve been getting very emotional. Ironing his uniform and labelling everything sent me over the edge today. He needs it. I need it. But oh boy am I going to miss my little toad.

Today will be all about Mama to take my mind off it. I’m heading for brunch and shopping with my Mama. Pampering and baby prep being the focus of the day.

I was so excited to get Mummy Monday back on the blog last week and it was lovely hearing from other real Mama’s wanting to get involved and chatting about real life as a Mother. Thank you for getting in touch.

Now, onto this week’s Real Mama:

I’m super excited to welcome the gorgeous Ashley from aMothersEdit onto the blog today for a super stylish Mummy Monday. I recently discovered Ashely’s insta feed and can’t get enough of her fashion-inspo, Mama life and all the prettiness. Her love of leopard print and denim got me hook, line and sinker. Over to you Ashley…

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Getting to know you

Name: Ashley

Where can we catch you on social: @amothersedit

Website: www.amothersedit.com 

Mama to: Vivienne Rose

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What’s your wardrobe must have: Anything denim – jeans, cut offs, levis skirt.

Your perfect way to relax: With plenty of wine

Currently reading/watching/listening to: Just finished watching Stranger Things, it was fantastic, and now we are working our way through Fargo series 2. Next up is the new series of Narcos

Proudest moment of your life: Everytime I watch Vivienne befriending someone in the park, she is so loving and caring of other children it makes me beam with pride.

Words you live by: Let go of the things you cannot control.

Your must have product: Aussie three minute miracle – without it my bleached mop would be a disaster!

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Being a Mama

What do you love most about being a Mummy: the way she looks at me for all the answers. The responsibility I have for this little lady is pretty daunting but so special.

What could you do without: Tantrums!

What 5 words best describe your birth story: ‘I try to forget it’ – that’s five words right?!

What should every Mama have in the birthing room: A supportive birthing partner.

What got you through the first weeks with a new baby: Friends and family helping me with the little things- my mum popped over and cleaned the bathroom, friends brought home cooked meals to put in the freezer for us… and they knew when to leave too! Very important!

Funny things Vivienne does: Vivienne is still learning to talk so there are a lot of words that come out completely wrong. But the Frozen song – Let it Go – she has that down to a tee and will sing it very loudly in her cot at 6.30am.

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How do you keep Vivienne entertained: Simple things are always the best… currently it’s a tub of water in the garden and she likes playing with her cars and little people jumping in and out.

How did you decide on her name: I wanted something you don’t hear very often and spent hours online looking at various websites. As soon as I read Vivienne I knew it was perfect. So feminine and elegant.

Where do you shop for your kids: I love Zara and Gap. And all her nursery clothes are from H&M – their basic collection is fantastic for tshirts and leggings.

Best piece of advice you could give other Mamas: We go through every aspect of life making our own decisions and learning as we go… suddenly we fall pregnant and loose our confidence. Listen to people’s advice, read the books etc but at the end of the day you have to trust your own instinct and do what feels right for you.

– thank you so much for taking part Ashley. xx

Mummy Monday – Real Mama – Rachel Bee

Good morning!

Today is a big day for so many Mama’s, sending their babies off to big school for the first time. I’m feeling you! We start next Monday and the dread is kicking in. As much as I’m ready for a ‘break’ after the holidays, I’m going to miss having my boy home with me during the week. I hope you’ve got something nice planned to take your mind off it. I’ve got your Monday morning cuppa read sorted anyway…

With our houses returning to an eerie quiet, I thought I’d re-launch an original feature I started way back in 2012 for your mid-morning cuppa read. I love hearing from real Mums about their tips and advice, so I’ve brought back Mummy Monday – and today’s Real Mama is the ever so lovely Rachel from Rachel Bee Jewellery. A fab lady I’ve been ‘social’ with since M was a wee babe, who designs beautiful jewellery and seems to be up at the crack of dawn most mornings creating and making with her gorgeous boy. Who has clearly inherited his Mama’s creative genes. (check out her insta feed)

Over to you Rachel. xx

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Name: Rachel

Where can we catch you on social media: Instagram Rachelbee76

Blog/website: Rachel Bee Jewellery on etsy ‘link ‘here

Business: Jeweller & valuer

Mama to: Max, who has just turned 5!

What’s your wardrobe must have: Stan Smiths and white tshirts

Your perfect way to relax: Gardening, bath with prosecco

Currently reading: Drew Barrymore wildflowers

Proudest moment of your life, so far: Recently just seeing what an amazing boy, I have produced!

Your must have product: Paula’s Choice skin perfecting 2% BHA exfoliant….amazing!!!!!

What do you love most about being a Mama: Being creative, having cuddles, chatting together and reliving your own childhood!

5 words to decribe your birth story: Quick, intense, nasty midwife & happy

What should every Mama have in the birthing room: gas & air

What got you through the first weeks with a new baby: Pure happiness (cheesey but true)

Funny things your kid says: ‘Are you bossing me out?’

Most embarrassing moment since becoming a Mama: Recently wetting myself, as we were in separate cubicles and as someone else came in, I pulled my jeans up to fast but my bladder carried on! Then proceeded to see the head of the PTA during my walk of shame!!!

How do you keep Max entertained: Crayons, sticker books & a balloon….bag must haves!

How did you decide on Max’s name: I’ve always liked Max, when we found it he was a boy it just felt right! His full name is Maximilian, spelt the french way. Even though the MIL tried to tell me I’d spelt it wrong on the day he was born!!!

Where do you shops for kids clothes: H&M, Zara, Cissy wears & Gap.

Best piece of advice: Everyday is a new day, so let it go! Happy mam = happy baby. Drive thru coffee & petrol are your friends!!!

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Thank you so much Rachel. The toilet incident made me snort. Oh what we go through.

If you would like to be featured, I’d love to have you. Drop me an email at gemmaguscott1982 [at] gmail . com and I’ll send you the questions. xx

I’VE FINALLY REALISED MY HAPPY and it’s not what I ever expected it to be

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I take my hat off to all these amazing women running businesses, parenting, fundraising and travelling the world, without a chipped nail or smudged eyeliner in sight. They seem to be here there and everywhere, whilst still looking super glam, with happy children and an amazing income to boot. (They must have super powers, right?)

It’s something I dreamed of being able to achieve for years. But the reality is far from it and that life just isn’t for everyone.

BUT THAT’S OK!

I have a secret, that I want to share with you…

This life isn’t for me.

I applaud the success stories and share their tales with a beam of pride seeing someone’s hard work paying off. I follow Insta feeds with glee and use their model as a boost when I need a hit of motivation. Because ‘Wow!’

But, it’s not a life I want. It feels like a revelation to say it out loud and something I never thought I’d say. But I am quite happy in my little City, spending most of my time in my home with my family and a few, carefully chosen, friends.

For years I ignored my body and my hatred of long hours, busy social lives and no down time. And I paid for it. I was constantly ill. I look back at my social timelines and every other day there’s a ‘I’ve got the worst headache.’ or ‘roll on bedtime.’ and ‘I’m so sick of being tired.’ I look again and see I was on Twitter until 2am, up at 6am, working from 7am – 10pm, as well as squeezing in booze fuelled weekends around the Country.

A couple of years ago, after a heavy load of anxiety and depression hit, I sat down and gave myself a good talking to. I looked at my life and sussed that it was the constant pressure to do better, chasing a dream I didn’t really believe in, never saying no, being seen to be busy or being seen to be lazy, that had taken affect. I was running around doing things and seeing people I didn’t really want to. Trying to be someone I’m not and I wasn’t getting any time at home to just be.

I was unhappy.

So I stopped.

I cancelled plans, cut out the negativity from my life and now make sure we have plenty of evenings and weekends at home together, plus time for myself. In between spending time with the people who make us happy.

And I don’t feel guilty in the slightest.

Why? Because this is what works for me. When my life is steady and I treat my mind and body well, my mind and body are good to me. It’s taken me a long time to learn the signs, but my body has always been good to me, trying to tell me when to take a break. It’s only now I’m listening that I’m benefiting from this amazing bit of communication.

To get to this point I’ve had to make some sacrifices in wages and ‘things’. I can’t do the weekly ASOS haul. But all in all I’ve gained so much more.

I know it’s not possible for everyone to change their job, work from home and have a week of free evenings. But if you’re constantly having to drag yourself out of the door to attend something you don’t really want to attend, or you’re running around with illness after illness without giving yourself time to recover – maybe it’s time to sit down and think ‘Do I really need to do this?’

Does the person you’re seeing deserve your time?

Will the office shut down if I take a sick day? Or will I be more productive and less infectious if I go in tomorrow?

Would Granny/friend/Aunty/Uncle really find it that much of a chore to watch the kids for a few hours? Or would they in fact love to be asked and enjoy some QT with their Grandchildren/Friends/Niece/Nephew?

Do I really need to watch every episode of Stranger Things tonight? Or should I get a good nights sleep and wait until tomorrow? (OK, so not everything’s as easy to give up!)

Is my life really so bad that I need to keep chasing the next thing? (Did this for so many years!)

I know so many people that are running around like headless chickens. Sick, unhappy and completely run down. Who won’t accept help, won’t take a break and won’t listen to their bodies.

If you’re happy with your life and you’re well and thriving from the busy, fair play to you. If you’re unhappy, sick and constantly complaining about how busy you are – slow the fuck down, take a break and get well.

It’s hard to take a break. But it can be so rewarding. Listen to your body Mama and don’t beat yourself up for taking some time out. You deserve it. xx

A Life Update – 33 weeks pregnant and getting ready for big school

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We are over half way through the Summer holidays and it has whizzed by. There’s no way we can look back on this time and say we didn’t make the most of our time together. We have been so busy. Days out, play dates with friends, water fights, road trips, and everything in between.

Suffice to say, we’re knackered. We’ve still got another 3 weeks left. (as M doesn’t start school until 12th September!) So we’re going to start to calm things down from next week and get our routine back on track.

GETTING READY FOR SCHOOL

The uniform has been delivered. Sob! It’s just the school shoes to get. Which I’m struggling with. I do not like what’s on offer in the ‘go to’ school shoes store. And Mills’ feet have been the same size for over a year and a half so I’m loathed to rush into getting him anything until as last minute as possible just in case that growth spurt happens. You can guarantee as soon as the £40 goes out of the account that’s when it’ll happen.

We’re both ready for the school journey to start. The anticipation of how he’s going to cope with it has got me on edge. He talks positively about school, but he’s so easily effected by other people’s emotions and actions that anything could happen in those first few weeks.

We’ve met up with some of his new school buds over the holidays, which has been great. Thankfully, there are at least two lovely children in his class with nice families all on the same wave length as us. So it’s a good start.

I know he’s ready for this new chapter, his boredom at being at home is a sure sign of this, but every change brings some hurdles so we’re ready to have a quiet September and October while he settles.

GETTING READY FOR BABY

People keep asking me ‘are you ready?’ but second time around I feel like we’ve been ready since we decided to have a second child. We’ve got all the equipment we need, and some, and a wardrobe full of new born baby clothes that were barely worn the last time around. Plus all the extra gadgets and gizmos I know will make our lives slightly easier when the time comes.

So in answer to your question ‘yes we’ve got everything we need, thank you very much.’

But in terms of ‘being ready’ my tact has been focused very differently this time. I’ve paid more attention to myself. We went on a hypnobirthing course to help me overcome some fears I had of labour and I’m focusing much more on how I felt after having M and what I can do differently this time. I know the rest of the new born stuff will fall into place, so where as last time it was all about baby and I didn’t give myself a second thought, this time, I’m making sure I spend time on myself. Getting emotionally and mentally prepared for this huge change.

7 weeks till DD and I can’t wait to meet this little wriggler. For more reasons than one. I’m so uncomfortable. It’s so high up that it’s getting in the way of breathing, so every position apart from leaning over my ball or sofa is uncomfortable. Which means I’m not sleeping well at all. My hips are really painful. By the end of the day – no matter what I’ve done – I’m hobbling around like a 90 year old with a hip replacement. It’s painful. Sleeping is frustrating and everything is a huge effort. But I know it’ll be worth it, and forgotten, once this little one arrives. The final two months are tough aren’t they. But once school time comes, I’m ready for lots of R&R and baby prepping.

AUTUMN IS COMING

These last few days of rain have got me in Autumn mode. I love a new season and Autumn is top of the list. After the unpredictable summer months, it’s nice to see the ol’ faithful signs of Autumn. It’s giving me the sorting and organising buzz I always get at this time of year, but annoyingly this year we’ve been so on top of house stuff, there’s not as much to do. Around the house that is.

Instead, my attentions are turning to my wardrobe. 7 months of maternity wear will do that to you. I’ve already purchased my Christmas dress. Spotted in Look magazine, I’ve been stalking ASOS for it ever since and snapped it up as soon as it became available. Will share that one on Insta when it arrives.

When I had Mills I totally lost my identity, but since then I’ve discovered a new found confidence in fashion that I’ve never had before. I know what I like, what looks good on me and I go for it. I’m looking forward to some wardrobe refreshes over the next few months to take me from pregnancy to post baby bod and beyond. I love autumn/winter fashion THE MOST. My wardrobe will mainly be comfy jeans and thick knits for day time, but I do love to don the sparkle at this time of year. Sparkle, metallics and leopard prints will be a big part of my winter wardrobe. I can’t wait to get shopping.

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Talking of fashion – Mills will be another one getting a wardrobe overhaul. He’s had the same summer clothes for 3 years! His legs are so tiny that he’s still in some 1-2 years shorts! But he’s shot up and his jeans are resembling ankle hangers. Which is fine when you can roll them up, but of course he doesn’t like them being rolled up. So I need to go shopping and I’m excited. Now he has a uniform for school days, I can go all out for his weekend wear. I’ll be looking at our favourite online boutiques for some stand out tops and hitting the high street for the old faithful skinnies and winter boots.

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I’m looking forward to the next few weeks of just me and Mills time. The calm before the storm. And hopefully once he’s back at school I’ll have a bit of time to finish some of the posts I’ve started. That’s the trouble with hobbies, they take a back burner to life. Annoyingly. But there’s lots I want to share about this second pregnancy, so I will get on it once the craziness of the summer holidays have past.

I’m also going to bring back my ‘Mummy Monday’ feature – where I ask real mums questions about life and parenting. If you fancy being featured, get in touch via Instagram or Facebook – search ‘Mission2Mum’.

Wishing you a wonderful final few weeks of the summer. xx

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